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I'll just make a few comments on the subject of Moderation
Management. I've spent a lot of time, over a decade, in the traditional
treatment world. This was preceded by and overlapped with spending a lot of time,
years,
in regular AA attendance. I've stayed closed to MM in several ways over
the past two years, monitoring their ever-ongoing-listserv meeting,
I tried to lead a meeting a month in NYC for over a year, and I try to
stay in touch with Ana and Cannon. I have no official position in MM, I
am on none of the 'boards,' but I do try to attend MM-NYC leadership
conferences and meetings.
I've noticed a few things about MM and the people it attracts so repeatedly that they bear stating:
-- People who come into MM run the gamut from those who are
clearly alcohol dependent 'alcoholics' by anyone's definition all the
way down to people who have no discernable problem with alcohol at all; literally. It is not that
uncommon for people to come into MM
because they drink one or two glasses of wine every day, and they are,
for
whatever reasons, (sometimes frankly baffling to me,)
uncomfortable with the daily-ness of it, or maybe the feeling that they
somehow 'need' it; but really nothing you could hang a symptom on, much
less a 'problem' or a diagnosis.
-- People who come into MM and start to work that program drink
less, DRAMATICALLY LESS in most cases. This can not be bad.
-- People who come into MM are very often refugees of the
traditional treatment system in this country which is, (can we admit this?)
rather monolithic. They resent the way that every degree of problem and
every person showing up on our doorstep is crammed into the same box
of "alcoholic in or out of denial." They resent the
reductionism so common in the traditional approach wherein peoples' particular
occupational, family, social, emotional, and physical problems
are all
reduced to "alcoholism."
-- People who come into MM don't like being called names,
especially when the same name is applied to wildly different persons and
cases in what appears to them, with some justification I think, a
somewhat random, scattershot way.
-- People who come into MM tend to resent, or find puzzling,
that 'radical abstinence' is the first and usually only response,
again, to any level of problem. This is, of course, the opposite of the
commonly understood general medical approach of trying non-medicinal
approaches first, and working progressively up through medications to more
intensive and invasive interventions and procedures.
-- As for the group of heavy drinkers who will probably never be
able to moderate their drinking to the rather strict MM standards for
any length of time, this group will repeatedly fail at Step 2 being
unable to complete a 30 day abstinence period, and will repeatedly fail
to be able to control their drinking within MM limits. If they don't
notice this themselves, the larger group will. Such people are gently
coaxed to either leave MM for AA, or to become permanently abstinent
members of MM, or they continue to kid themselves and enter into a binge
/ relapse cycle; just like we so commonly see in AA and in our
treatment centers.
I've been in both programs, and spent 90% of my professional
life in addiction treatment - MM, AA, professional treatment -- all of
these approaches are full of people who take half measures, who delude themselves, and whose conditions more or less rapidly
deteriorate. None of us do so well with the addictions that we have any cause
for
pride.
A point I am trying to make, is that I believe that MM is a
rational place for a person concerned about their drinking to find out
whether or not they have a problem with alcohol, to determine the
severity of that problem, and to attempt moderate, socially reasonable
drinking, in the somewhat protective environment of the collective. I do
not find this crazy. I find this very sane and would like nothing
better than to see it available to people earlier and earlier on the
curve of problematic drinking.
I would love to see the questioning of one's drinking, without
stigma or labeling, become normative in America. This is a personal
dream I have, a vision I pursue; it has little to do with MM as it
currently exists.
The system we have fails to engage the majority. The system we
have tends to push people away, to become potentially sicker. The
system we have does a poor job of engaging people early on the continuum
of
illness as is standard medical practice for any of the other
'chronic, relapsing, diseases.'
Moderation Management tries to fill the huge gapping hole in our treatment system that really has very little or nothing to offer
the person with, say, three alcohol-related problems. MM tries to
address the people who are the MAJORITY of the alcohol problem,
(personal, family, occupational, and societal;) call them 'problem
drinkers,' 'alcohol abusers,' or whatever.
One of the interesting things about MM, as compared to AA or traditional treatment, is that it is soft and yielding,
non-directive. There is little to push off against, little to get one's back up
about, little to resist, to resent, or to run away from.
Personally, I have very recently noticed in myself, coming from
a background of severe alcoholism and drug addiction, AA, and traditional treatment, that I know a lot about quitting things,
and about engaging other desperate people into taking the necessary
first steps. But the people who come into MM and who seriously begin,
by-the-book, the process of assessing the meaning of alcohol in
their lives, and their relationship with it, I am finding that these
people much more rapidly start to address the im-moderation in other
areas of their lives - and they get to this more general point of self
examination and learning, in "the pursuit of positive
lifestyle changes," (perhaps *the* major step of Moderation
Management,) far earlier than I did in my own recovery.
This last point could of course be a function of severity of
illness, or perhaps that level of change has just come particularly
slowly to myself. But I see it regularly in those who diligently apply the
MM program, and it is a difference in the approaches that I
continue to perceive, and believe is significant.
..alex...
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